Humans are social beings; we like to belong to a group. We need to feel included, connected and to have people who we feel allied with. Friendship, work, social and hobby groups; we find comfort and affiliation with those who have common ground, those with similar likes and dislikes and those who we feel will…… Continue reading Belonging
Regret; the sense of sadness or repentance for having done or not done something. I carry an overwhelming sense of regret in this life I live after loss, and it is something that can be a heavy burden to bear. After all, there is no going back, no changing what has been done…… Continue reading Regret me not: Coping with regrets in life after loss
Strong: Having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks Able to withstand force, pressure, or wear Very intense After losing your baby, this is something that many people seem to say: ‘you are so strong’ or ‘I don’t think I could be as strong as you’. I know this…… Continue reading You are so strong
Today marks the start of Baby Loss Awareness Week; every year from the 9th – 15th October, bereaved parents, their families and professionals unite to remember and commemorate their babies as well as raising awareness about the issues surrounding baby loss. Babies can die at many different stages in many different ways: miscarriage, ectopic and…… Continue reading Be(a)ware: Why raise awareness?
In January, I completed an 8-week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course (MBSR) and during the final session, we were asked to write a letter to ourselves that would be posted in a few months time. And a few days ago, mine arrived. I actually couldn’t bring myself to open it initially: I have felt…… Continue reading Mind the (Mindfulness) Gap
I must begin by saying that this is a long one; clearly anxiety was a very big deal in PAL! I must also say that this post doesn’t go into what I did to manage my anxiety, as I want to do that justice elsewhere. This is just me trying to make sense of…… Continue reading Feel the fear and do it anyway (because you have no choice in pregnancy after loss)
I feel that this will be the first of a series of posts, since if I write about it all now, it could take days to read. There is so much swimming around in my head about my nine months of pregnancy after loss, and I want to give it the time and space it…… Continue reading The beginnings of processing pregnancy after loss